In Black America Podcast: Making Marriage Work with Judge Lynn Toler
On this edition of In Black America, producer/host John L. Hanson Jr. speaks with Judge Lynn Toler, TV’s Divorce Court, and author of Making Marriage Work: New Rules For An Old Institution. Drawing from her career as a judge and her own marriage, Toler sees that the biggest impediment to marriage these days—when the national divorce rate hovers around 50%—is that couples decide to take the plunge based almost entirely on the most irrational and impractical criteria: falling in love. Marriage, she says, is a job, and it needs to be treated like one. However, the makeup and consistency of this job has changed so much over the past few decades that the old rules no longer apply. Toler offers simple tips and insight on the new challenges created in a culture often overwhelmed by the emphasis on – and ability to attain instant gratification.
Making Marriage Work doesn’t suggest that love has nothing to do with marriage at all; rather, Toler says that love by itself is simply not enough to make marriages survive. The book is a logical and simple guide to reintroducing some of the practicality of marriage that has leaked out of it over the years. Replete with simple, no-nonsense rules, Divorce Court anecdotes, and stories about Toler’s own union, Making Marriage Work contains invaluable information couples can use today to secure their marital tomorrow.